I am so depressed and need help
Hi everyone. I had my original surgery Feb 09. I only lost about 20 pounds or so. I did not eat what I should have plus there was alot going on in my family and there was a ton of stress put on my shoulders. I basically turned to junk food as soon as I was able to eat foods. then I was throwing up every time I would eat. I found out I had a hernia. My surgeon fixed my hernia and revised my band. That was June 2010. when I went for my check up and first fill, my surgeon told me he was leaving that practice and going else where. it was the best thing he could do for his family so I cannot be mad at him but the other surgeon that is there, I do not like. Twice he missed my port. I have not been back since. I have fibromyalgia and other health things going on so it is really hard for me to exercise or even take walks. It is very painful. I weigh the most I have ever weighed in my life.I even tried weigh****chers. I am addicted to junk food. I do not know what to do. I hate myself for it. I really do need help. thanks for listening to me vent.
Doreen
I am so sorry you are going through this!! Sounds like you have an awful lot going on!
First of all, you need to know that you are not alone! Most(if not all) of us are food addicts, which led us to have WLS in the first place. The surgeons can only fix your stomach, not your head!! When I went for my consultation I thought that lapband would be what I needed to get. After meeting with my surgeon, she said that RNY was the better way to go since I was pushing 400 lbs! It has been almost three years from my surgeon and I have regained about 20 lbs since my lowest weight. Do I beat myself up about it? YES! But then I remind myself that I have kept off most of the weight I have lost.
A couple of suggestions...1. switch doctors, sounds like the one you have now is not a good fit for you. 2. think about RNY, yes it is more invasive, but you will lose weight faster. I have NO regrets about having RNY. I am SO glad that I listened to my surgeon! 3. talk to a professional. I see a therapist on a regular basis, have been since before my surgery. If you need the name of a good one that deals with food addiction/ WLS patients I can give you the number of my therapist.
I am glad that you posted on here. It is a great place to get information, support, and understanding....
I hope I helped in some small way!
((HUGS))
Beth
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I really do not want to have RYN because my daughter had it and almost died. The doctor made a mistake. It is a long story. I also do go to a psychiatrist but it is not for weight loss. It is for everything that I am going thru. My Psych doctor is about 400 lbs and she could really care less about her weight and is as happy as a clam. I told her about the lapband and she supports it and tells me to move more and exercise. My fibromyalgia doctor told me there is nothing they can do for fubromyalgia except meds for pain and that is not 100%. I am told to walk, do as much as I can. work thru the pain. the more I do, the less pain I may have. I just cannot do much. Is it an excuse? No clue!!!
I appreciate all you have told me and will keep it all in mind. I see the new surgeon on Tuesday so I am hoping he can get in my head and tell me something.
thanks again,
Doreen
We all understand the situation, food will always be an issue. There is one thing you must have a talk with yourself about. You need to make a commitment to yourself to give up the junk food. Not just until you lose the weight, but permanently. So many of us have gone for years without the not so healthy food only to allow it to sneek back into our lives and then boom, the scale starts moving upward and seemingly is unstoppable. Weight loss surgery is a life long commitment to yourself. You have to be willing to make the commitment or the effects of the surgery will only be temporary. Any procedure or doctor you choose will have the same outcome unless you make the commitment to yourself. Don't hate yourself, love yourself enough to do the right thing. You will always find people to support you on this board and at the meeting. You are not alone in this fight. Find someone to buddy up with and keep you honest with yourself.
Wishing you the best,
Nan
THANK YOU EVERYONE.
I am going to keep on this site for help.
THANKS AGAIN!!!!
Honestly, everyone before has said it all to you already, so I won't go on to say it over again, read the responses you've gotten and make the commitment to yourself to change the things you can, because that truly is the crux of what you need to do.
Best wishes, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland